Marriage RealityAnonymous

21 Jun 2 min read

Thinking About Divorcing My Husband

I need advice because I feel like I've reached my breaking point. When I married my husband, I loved him deeply. I genuinely believed we would grow old together. Over the years, there have been several things that hurt me, but I kept overlooking them because I loved him. One of them was his habit of getting too comfortable with other women. He would do things I considered inappropriate and dismiss my concerns by saying they meant nothing. Then one day, I discovered he was still chatting with some of his exes and telling them he was still attracted to them. That broke my heart, but I stayed. The most painful incident happened recently. I found out he had become very close to a particular woman online. They spent hours chatting, using romantic words and discussing things I believe a husband should be discussing with his wife. When I confronted the woman, hoping she would back off, my husband did the opposite. He messaged her and told her to ignore me. That hurt more than anything. As if that wasn't enough, he told me he enjoys talking to her because whenever he discusses things with me, he doesn't achieve his plans. He even said I have been bad luck to him since our marriage. Those words shattered me. The painful part is that this is a man who owns land, has built things for himself, and has made progress in life. Yet he still blames me for his frustrations. We have two children together. Recently, he made it clear that he is no longer in love with me. He said he only sees me as the mother of his children. According to him, the love died before our second child was born. Since then, he has locked his phone and become even more secretive. I still love him, but I am exhausted. Every day, I feel like I'm fighting for someone who no longer wants me. I'm beginning to believe that loving someone who openly says they don't love you back is a battle you can never win. For the sake of my peace of mind, I'm considering divorce and starting over. Am I making the right decision, or should I keep trying to save my marriage? I will be reading the comments. Thank you.