Must I Marry Him Because My Pastor Said God Approved?
My pastor called me to his office after Sunday service and told me that a man in the church has expressed interest in marrying me. He said the man is God fearing, very dedicated, and serves in the choir. He also said he has prayed about it and feels a strong confirmation from God that this is the right man for me. He advised me to pray, seek God's face, and give the man a chance. The problem is that I know this man. He is my friend, in fact, the closest friend I have in that church. He has been telling me for some time that he likes me, but I have been avoiding the conversation because I do not feel the same way. I feel nothing when I see him. nothing. Sometimes, when he calls, I do not even feel like answering. I have tried to force myself to see him in a different light, but my heart is not cooperating. Now I am confused because my pastor, a man of God whom I respect, is telling me this is from God. He says attraction is not everything and that love grows with time. But I am a woman who dreams of a husband I will truly love, a man whose touch will make me feel alive. Is it wrong to want that? I have been praying to God for a husband, but I have been praying for a man I will love, not just a man I will tolerate. Now my pastor is telling me to pray about this specific man. Honestly, I do not want to be disrespectful to him because I know he means well, but I also do not want to enter a marriage where I will be unhappy. What kind of life would that be? I am thinking of going back to my pastor and telling him the truth that I do not love this man and I cannot force those feelings. But I am also afraid. What if he sees it as disrespect? Please, how do I gather the courage to speak to my pastor tomorrow, and how do I say it without sounding harsh?.🙏
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