RelationshipsAnonymous

5d ago 1 min read

My man couldn't get an erection, and now he's avoiding me. Stress or side chick?

Good morning Eucarl community, let to let ask a delicate question about happenings in my relationship. We've been together for 5 years and we live together. Night before last, we tried to have sex and he couldn't get hard. It has never happened before. He asked me to help with my mouth or hand, and I refused. I turned over and slept with a heavy heart. The next day, he was distant. Normally when he's off work, we spend time together, but this time he stayed in the TV room all day. This morning, I opened up to an older colleague I pray with. I told her maybe he's no longer attracted to me, or maybe a side chick has "done something" to him. She told me to calm down and not jump to conclusions. She said it could be BP, alcohol, smoking or stress, and I told her he had been drinking Coronas and smoking that night. Her advice was to support him, give him time, and stop overthinking. But my heart is still not at rest. I keep asking myself if it's me. So, family, is my colleague right, or should I be worried? And was I wrong to refuse when he asked me to help? Be honest with me.