Am I Wrong?Anonymous

17h ago 2 min read

I Loved Her for 3 Months Without Asking Her Out, but Our First Date Opened My Eyes 😭💔

I'm a qualified nurse, currently furthering my studies, and I also run a small business. I'm financially stable and ready to settle down. I've worked hard to reach a place where I can take care of a wife and build a home. There's a lady who works at a supermarket in Ikeja. I fell for her the first day I saw her. For three months, I stopped by almost every day just to see her smile. I brought her lunch and flowers, and I never once asked her out. I wasn't playing. I wanted her as my wife. Last weekend, I finally found the courage to invite her to lunch. I told her to pick the place. She chose a lounge that sells food and alcohol. I was surprised, but I kept quiet. The day before, she texted: I forgot to tell you, tomorrow is my birthday. I asked what she wanted. iPhone 17 or Samsung S26. Any latest phone." I just replied, "Okay. When I got there, she wasn't alone. Two other ladies sat with her, dressed in barely-there tops and very short skirts. "This is my bestie, and this is my cousin. They'll join us." Then she turned to them: "Ladies, meet Chidi, the nurse guy I told you about. My babe!" I was already uncomfortable, but I stayed calm. Then she announced, "Order anything you want. My guy is loaded, no wahala!" Chai! I couldn't believe my ears. This was the woman I'd pictured marrying. I planned to send her back to school, set her up with a business, and build a future with her. And in that moment, I wondered if I had ever really known her. I excused myself, pretended to take a call, and left. At home, I blocked her everywhere. Before that, I sent one last message: I wanted to send you back to school, set you up in business, and marry you. But your attitude pushed me away. Please change your ways, because the choices you make today can affect your future. I'm not saying a woman shouldn't enjoy herself or have friends. But when someone comes to you with sincere intentions, shouldn't you show them who you really are? Did I overreact by walking away, or was I right to protect myself before investing more in her?