Am I Wrong?WildEwe

19 Jul 1 min read

Is Love Enough When You're the Only One Paying the Bills?

Good evening everyone. I’ve been with my boyfriend for four years, and I’m no longer sure I’m wrong for wanting out. When we met, I was young and deeply in love. He is a pastor, and I admired his faith and humility. I thought we were building a future. But he has no job, and every time I ask about work, he says, “God’s time is the best.” Meanwhile, I’m a part-time student who also works, yet I give him almost half my salary every month. Before the month ends, I’m the one struggling and borrowing money. When I tell him I’m broke, he just says, “Pray about it. God will make a way.” I have prayed. I have cried. I have sacrificed. Nothing has changed. Recently, another man from my church came into my life. He doesn’t ask me for money. He checks on me, supports me, and treats me with kindness. For the first time in years, I feel valued. I told my boyfriend I wanted to end things, and he called me ungrateful. Ungrateful for what? For paying his bills? For carrying him for four years? I feel guilty because he is a pastor, but I also know I deserve better. I don’t want to keep living like this. How do I end this peacefully without drama? And am I wrong for wanting someone who actually shows me love and responsibility?