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10 Jun 2 min read

In a Situation With My Neighbour: How Do I Get My ₦50k Back?

I’m currently in a confusing situation with my neighbour and I need some advice. There’s a lady in my compound who lives alone and should be in her late 20s. I also stay alone, although my girlfriend comes around occasionally. We’re not particularly close; we only exchange greetings whenever we see each other. A few months ago, she approached me for a loan of ₦50,000, saying she had an emergency and would repay it the following week. She asked for my account details and phone number so she could send the money back and notify me once the transfer was made. Later that same evening, after collecting the money, she started messaging me on WhatsApp. Her first message was, “Thanks for coming through for me, hun.” The next day, she sent me a revealing photo of herself. Shortly after noticing that I had viewed it, she deleted it and claimed it was sent by mistake. After that, she continued texting me regularly, often using pet names like “hun,” “dear,” “boo,” and “babes.” The promised repayment date came and went without any mention of my money. Instead, she sent another revealing photo and deleted it again shortly after I viewed it. I chose not to react. By the fourth week, I asked about the loan. She apologized and said she would pay me the following week. The next day, she brought over some food, saying she had cooked and wanted to share it with me. I thanked her but didn’t eat it. A day later, around 9 p.m., she knocked on my door and said she needed help with something on her phone. While I was checking it, she mentioned that mosquitoes were disturbing her and asked if she could step inside. I agreed. Once inside, she began making romantic advances towards me. I immediately made it clear that I wasn’t interested and politely asked her to leave. Since then, she has continued sending messages, expressing strong feelings for me and occasionally sending inappropriate photos. It has now been over four months, and she still hasn’t paid back the ₦50,000 she borrowed. At this point, I’m genuinely confused. Does she actually like me, or is she trying to avoid repaying the money by using attraction as a distraction? I’m not interested in pursuing anything with her, and my priority is simply getting my money back. What would you do in my situation?