Am I Wrong?Anonymous

13 Jun 2 min read

FIRST DATE GONE WRONG: He Had Other Intentions and I Had to Walk Away

I met this guy some time ago when he came to pick up a few things at my mom's place. We had a great connection, but we didn't exchange contacts. A month or two later, he stopped by again to say hello, and this time we exchanged numbers. We started chatting, and I was impressed by how fluent he was in English. We talked for a few days and seemed to get along well. Since he already had plans for the weekend, we agreed to meet at his place a few days later. When I arrived, we greeted each other with a hug. There wasn't a chair available, so I sat on the bed. A few moments later, he gave me a quick kiss. I immediately pulled back and reminded him that wasn't why I had come. However, he kept trying, and although I eventually gave in to the pressure, it didn't stop there. Then he offered me one of his T-shirts to wear, which immediately felt strange to me. I asked him if he had other intentions, and his response confirmed my suspicions. At that point, I had to ask him directly: "Is that what this is all about?" I live in a well-known area in Yenagoa, and I couldn't understand why he would assume I would be comfortable with that. It wasn't even about whether people should get too close on a first date or not. What surprised me was that we had chatted for four days without having any conversation that suggested that was where things were headed. I just sat there looking at him in disbelief. Then, to make matters even stranger, he suddenly started speaking the local dialect, despite telling me earlier that he couldn't speak it. I made my feelings very clear. Not long after that, he began making comments about what I was wearing, and that made me even more uncomfortable. At that point, I knew it was time to leave. I ordered a ride and left. Since then, I've decided to stop talking to him completely. I was hoping to build a genuine friendship and get to know him better, but it became clear that we were not looking for the same thing. Honestly, I still don't understand why some people behave this way. Whatever your intentions are, shouldn't you be honest about them from the beginning? And most importantly, shouldn't people's boundaries be respected? Maybe I expected too much, but I believe respect and clear communication should come first. Did I overreact, or was I right to walk away? What would you have done in my situation?