I was very much in love with my husband when we got married. He is someone that doesn’t see any bad thing in sharing his face towel with a particular lady . He would say it means nothing. But then there is a particular incident that got me. I caught him still chatting with his ex'(s). Saying he’s still attracted to them.
But the recent one is spending so much time on social media with a particular lady and using romantic words and discussing what should be discussed with his wife with her. After I caught them I chatted the lady and warned her but rather he decided to text the lady and told her to ignore my thre*t telling me that he finds joy chatting her because once he discuss with me he won’t achieve his plan. He said I have always been bad luck to him that no achievement since he married me but yet he owns a land of his own. We have 2 kids. And he made it clear he isn’t in love with me anymore but sees me as his children’s mother.
Since then I felt disappointed because I love him so much. I can’t stop loving him but he told me the love died before the second child. This things has gotten a lot on me because he went to the extent of locking his phone so I don’t see the sh*t he’s doing anymore.
Now I feel loving someone who doesn’t love me is out of it. I want to get a divorce and move on with my life. I want to ask if I’m making the right decision.
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Talk true..you trouble this guy and now he is showing you.
hope you’d say this if the table turns tomorrow?
E do ah people forget marriage is more spiritual than physical. The fact that he use to love you means it’s there. Madam go and pray and look into your family. Check is such things happened to either your mum, aunt or relative. Pray and communicate with him.
Patience!
You need to excercise PATIENCE.
Marriage can be boring, ignore your husband and focus on yourself. He will eventually come around.
The street will teach him lessons he won’t forget and will come back to his wife sooner or later.
Start doing things that makes you happy and don’t ever think of paying back by cheating on him.
Do you want to divorce yourself from the asset that feeds its children and puts a roof over your head for love elsewhere, or is it for fuq?
If you were frank with yourself, you’d know by now that neither of you knew what love was when you entered this relationship. I mean, just hear yourself, “he doesn’t see any bad thing in sharing his face towel with a particular lady”, but now you see “bad thing in sharing his face towel with a particular lady” and want to divorce him.
Nigeria is hard these days, so I wouldn’t advice going solo with 2 kids who deserve love.
HMM
Wahala for modern marriages. Hope you didn’t force yourself on him to marry you that’s the mistake most ladies make. Or maybe you guys are not s*xually compatible, a lot of marriages have gone due to s*xual incompatibility. Find out why he stopped loving you and try to readjust, sometimes temporary seperation reset the brain and it’s what is needed to bring back the fire, this actually worked for some people I know and they came back stronger.
Most times divorce isn’t what you need to make your marriage work
Hey madam! are ya truly a bad luck?..or is there something ya ain’t getting right?..cuss i didn’t see any reason why a man that loved and married you, will just change over night unless he can’t see what made him to marry you in you any longer…cuss ya women can pretend for africa…or you’re no longer neat unlike b4…dirtiness is my no1 turn off point…again be PRAYERFUL.
Hmmmm!!!!
In marriage there’s a lot of things that goes into making it work.
Most at times men find it comforting to have a conversation and to have someone listen to them but few women knows that, all they are is the man should always listen to them.
Somethings aren’t right with your marriage and instead of you to sit down and trace the root cause of it, and find a lasting solution to it, you’re rather thinking about divorce, do you think with this how many husbands would you continue to get married and divorce them.
I’m a man, I have a woman she has been not been around me for the past 1 1/2 year and I have never thought of cheating with her, but the days I come from work and things are weighing me down, I always wish to have a conversation with her cry out my pain and frustrations but then I wouldn’t give me a listening ear, all she would do is talk about things which is non beneficial and non profitable.
So at that point of depression and frustrations then you would see what of the ladies messaging and it starts like that and went it continues like that, you realize you feel more comforting and confined in her than your wife.
Please check the root cause of it, because I believe something started somewhere.
Ask him if you’ve done something wrong and he never talked about it or if there’s something you kept on doing and he already complained a lot about but you still keep on doing it… if he says no then try checking yourself and observe d lady from afar see if she’s doing something special cos most times if you’re not a good listener, adviser, supportive wife and all u do is take, cause a man problem, get him frustrated over little things, even if you’re not a badluck naturally, you’ve created yourself to be cos he’ll never be able to think straight to grow or concentrate more about making money… so, check yourself first and if u see nothing wrong then go ahead and ask him what you did wrong
Oh so sorry about how the whole situation has made you feel..
Please try having a dialogue conversation with him to find out what you have done that has made him fall out of love with you ok
So it can be corrected..
If you love him like you said try making the marriage workout by having a nice and calm conversation ok because I believed he loved you before he got married to you …