I’m 28 and a member of a church that doesn’t permit her members to marry outside. I’ve been through so much in the hands of our members who claimed to love me. Now I’m dating a very loving man who isn’t my church member. I’m so afraid of what my parents will do, because I’m determined to marry him. Besides, I don’t want to get to 30 without a child, so I’m thinking of getting pregnant. Please what do you advise me to do?
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My love, I think you should have a one on one with your parents again, if you know you and your man really loves each other and you will be happy in that marriage, your church shouldn’t be a problem, I’m more concerned about your parents cos you can marry in a different church, so just try to make your parents see reasons with you. You own your happiness. For now pregnancy shouldn’t be an option.
Marriage should not be based on church denomination
Once you both are good with each other you can both get married.
Although parents consent is needed for marriage, when they are biased it may be inconsequential. In this case, they are biased and inconsiderate.
You shouldn’t get pregnant for the guy, just incase the marriage doesn’t work out.
If you’re sure you both are compatible in all aspect, you both should marry and live happy even if parents doesn’t support since it’s denominational issue
Dear, I totally understand your concerns and plight, you need to acknowledge that your feelings are valid and your love is real. Before taking any decision firstly
* Have an open an open conversation with your parents and church leaders, hear from them their concerns and also try to plea your decision to them
*If there reasons don’t sit well with you, ask yourself: Are there specific beliefs or values that your church emphasizes that you’re willing to compromise on? Or are there other aspects of your faith that you can still uphold while marrying someone from a different denomination?
– Reflect on what matters most to you: your love for this person, your faith, or your family’s approval. Prioritize your own happiness and well-being.
Remember, your happiness and love life are yours to own. Be Free to make your decision. Your parents would come around eventually. Always have in CHRISTIANITY isn’t defined to a particular church
I wish you well…..Pursue your happiness it matters most
Follow your heart