My husband and I have been married for four years. We dated for two years before marriage, so making six.
When I was young, my mother never really made us wash our father’s trousers because she used to find money in his pocket, and that motivated her to wash them.
If you wash my father’s trousers, you’re likely to find money in one out of every five trousers you’ll wash. My elderly sister and I used to fight over some or even with our mother, and it was very fun. We all enjoyed the idea of washing for our father, and if someone rushes to wash them and finds no money in his pocket, we laugh at her all day. That life was fun and interesting. It made the family happy. I wasn’t really washing for my husband when we were dating, but we’ve been married for four years, and I’ve never found money in his pocket. Not even 100 naira or a pin. His pockets are always dry. I am tired. This is something I shouldn’t complain about, but we’re suddenly quarrelling about it because no matter what happens, his pockets are always empty when I’m washing them. He said he’s used to emptying his pocket when he gets home, l’ve asked him to stop, but he still does it. I am bored and tired of even washing his clothes. It’s not like he’s not responsible or something. He’s doing everything right, but that act would motivate me or even make me happy.
Instead of trying to work on it, he wants to deliberately pay me when I wash for him just to prevent us from arguing.
That’s not what I want, I don’t want to be paid. I just want him to be a man. He should be able to forget something in his pocket, even if not always, once a while.
This is really affecting our marriage. I want to be as happy as I was living with my parents. Even my sister finds money in her husband’s pocket, and anytime she does, she calls to tell me, and we still laugh at our memories. Why can’t my own husband be a man? It’s really bothering me. I’m ang*y and bitter about it. Four years and not once. The ladies here can bear me witness that this is very bad.
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Ma’am know this and know peace !!
Your marriage can’t be like that of your parents
So as a woman look for what will spice up your marriage and stop trying to make your husband be exactly like your father..
Since he has grown to empty his pocket that shouldn’t be a reason you are getting tired of the marriage…
Make your home work and look less on things that doesn’t matter ….
My suggestion tho.
God help you ma’am and give you the right wisdom to keep your marriage.
Much love.