Good evening Eucarl, please I need an outside opinion.
I’ve been married to my husband for over four years now, and one thing that has consistently caused tension in our relationship is his habit of seeking advice from his family members without consulting me first. Whether it’s about financial decisions, household matters, or even personal issues, he often turns to his parents or siblings for guidance without asking for my opinion.
At first, I tried to brush it off as a harmless habit, but as time went on, I started to feel like my voice wasn’t being heard. I felt like I was being left out of important decisions that affected our life together. I’ve tried talking to him about it, explaining how it makes me feel disrespected and unvalued, but he just says that he’s not doing it on purpose and that he trusts his family’s advice.
It’s hard not to feel like I’m being undermined when he prioritizes their opinions over mine. I’ve started to feel like I’m not his partner, but rather an afterthought. We’ve had arguments about this, and I’ve felt like I’m constantly trying to prove myself as a capable and competent partner.
I’ve realized that this behavior is not only affecting our communication but also eroding my trust and confidence in our relationship. I feel like I’m walking on eggshells, never knowing when he’ll make a decision without consulting me. I wish he could understand that seeking advice from his family doesn’t have to mean dismissing my opinions. I want us to work together as a team, making decisions that benefit both of us.
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I am a big fan of look before you leap. Especially in marriage, consider every little thing after all they say little things matter the most.
No bad habits in courtship should ever be overlooked, it should be discussed and both parties have to understand each others standpoint on it.
Well unfortunately, you are in already. Keep explaining to him, hopefully he will understand. That’s the best you can do for now.
Oh well
You didn’t see any signs when you guys were dating that your man can’t make his own decisions?
You should have seen all these and left
My dear sister, please don’t stop praying 🙏 Your man is not safe and be sure to win this battle with prayer because the family never care about you, if they do they would tell their son to take certain discussion to his wife Be hardworking and try doing a lot by yourself. If your family is close, take few days off and go clear your mind with your family. If he stays with the family or close to them, the manipulation will never stop. It’s a tough decision but please Pray without ceasing