Please I don’t know how to attend to this, we’ve been married for 3months with my husband. Now as we’re staying together full time,l notice he doesn’t like brushing teeth at all, we actually fight over that. You find that it’s two days already passed but whenever I remind him he’ll have excuse all the time and when he finally does (brush teeth) he doesn’t do it thoroughly.
I’m frustrated by this, he’s a well respected and people’s person. He treats me so well but when it comes to this issue, a fight may come anytime. You’ll find that we’re going to church or town but when it’s time for us to brush teeth he’ll say he’s getting late and become ang*y with me. I can’t even kiss him freely, what do I do? Please assist me here.
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It’s still to early to give up. Give him time.
If he doesn’t like brushing his teeth leave him alone
That’s your cross continue carrying him with faith
It’s for better for worse
Use reverse psychology and thank me later.
You married a child. How can a grown man not be capable of basic hygiene like brushing his teeth? I will not accept this from a 12-year-old. I am sorry, you can do nothing about such a man. Does he wipe his b*tt after using the toilet?
You are the child here. People like you will end up marrying a someone who takes bath once in a week.
I will marry an adult not a child who does not know basic hygiene.
I will date for a long time and will know everything already before marriage.
So it’s safe to say cannot marry such an individual.
Bath, brush are twice daily in the minimum.
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Are you the husband? Pls, try brush teeth even if na chewing stick.
People who are in the habit of jumping to conclusions can easily jump to their deaths, especially when they miss the true conclusion
It’s not a good habit bros, she is very concerned and you need to honestly change.
I empathize with you, but start doing this every morning and it will later get use to him.
wake up early every day with your husband’s tooth brush properly pasted with one of the best and most expensive tooth paste(if you can afford it), and serve it to your husband every morning as soon as he wakes & stands up from the bed, let it be the first thing you will do even before family prayers. take it as your responsibility and forebear with the man. It may not work everyday initially,but it will definitely work with time and patience & he will soon get use to brushing,
Ensure you compliments the sweetness that comes from his mouth and breath and shower him with deep and passionate kisses IMMEDIATELY after brushing,
also DON’T nag the man. you have to approach him with a deep sense of genuine care to him and his Oral health. And inform him man, that not brushing everyday can increase his chances of having oral complications,like mouth ordours, tooth decays, and that as it stands now that many of his friends have noticed that his mouth smells repulsively but are afraid to tell him and that reduces his self Worth in their midst.
I completely understand that this issue is causing frustration and discomfort in your marriage.
However, you need to be patient and
Have a Calm and Respectful Conversation. Choose a calm moment to discuss the issue with your husband. Express your concerns about oral hygiene and its impact on your relationship, such as not being able to kiss him freely.
I recommend you use the “I” statements to avoid sounding accusatory. Example, “I feel uncomfortable when…”
Secondly, understand why he may be resistant to brushing his teeth regularly. There could be underlying reasons such as dental anxiety, laziness, or simply not realizing the importance. This can help you find a solution.
Thirdly, invest in education on the Importance of Oral Hygiene. If he underestimates the importance of oral hygiene, share information from reputable sources about the benefits of regular brushing and flossing. We sometimes, need to understand the health implications to change our habits.
Lastly, Propose practical solutions such as setting a specific time for brushing together, trying different types of toothpaste or toothbrushes to make it more enjoyable for him, or keeping dental supplies easily accessible.
Approaching the issue with empathy and understanding can help you both find a solution that works for your marriage. Remember, communication and mutual respect are key in resolving conflicts like this.