I love my daughter more than anything. I’ve fallen out of love with my husband. I keep denying it, but I have. I feel I’ve outgrown him or something.
He’s immature, lazy, no ambition, different values, constant swearing which I hate, he wants to be an alpha male but I’m the one who has to save for everything. I’m the one who gets us through financially at the end of the month, despite he earns more.
However, I believe that I can stay with him and pretend that we are in love for the sake of my daughter. I want her to have a father figure. He’s an OK father.
Sometimes, I resent spending time with him because I just get this uncomfortable feeling because I know I don’t really love him like I used to and we are just living under the same roof.
I’ve completely stopped having s*x with him and when I kiss him I just want the kissing session to be over as soon as possible. But I will live with this “uncomfortableness” for the sake of my daughter. I want to be a good actor for her. I don’t want anything to affect her, I want her to have a stable family home.
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It sounds like you’re facing a difficult and personal dilemma. It’s commendable that you’re prioritizing your daughter’s well-being and wanting to maintain a stable family environment for her.
However, it’s also important to consider your own emotional and mental health. Continuing a relationship without genuine love and connection can be draining and may eventually affect your relationship with your daughter as well.
Have you considered having an open and honest conversation with your husband about your feelings and concerns? It may be a challenging conversation, but it could potentially lead to growth and changes in your relationship.
Additionally, consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who can provide a safe and neutral space to explore your feelings and navigate this situation.
Remember that being a good parent doesn’t mean sacrificing your own happiness entirely. Finding a balance between prioritizing your daughter’s needs and your own emotional well-being is crucial.
Take care of yourself and consider exploring resources that can support you in this journey.