I meet this guy online sometime last year, we started talking, eventually we became fond of each other. We talk for hours on the phone and we are always texting.
One day we were talking dirty then I jokingly told him I am a virgin. I never knew he took it seriously, all I knew was his attention and care for me tripled. He became even sweeter. In June, he lost his uncle, he came back this month for the burial and he wants to take me along for the burial and also introduce me to his family and then come to see my parents so we can start making wedding plans.
I asked why he wants to marry me and he said “it’s hard to see women like me that still keeps themselves” oh!, I am in trouble.
I am not a virgin, infact I have two kids already. Whenever I tell my male acquaintances about having two kids, they disappear, now I told him I am a virgin, he wants to marry me.
I don’t know how to tell him, I tried getting him to have s*x with me so he will realise but he said he would want us to wait till after our wedding.
Please help me guys, what do I do ? I don’t want to loose him, he has done so much for me and I know he loves me, I don’t want to break his heart, he is a good man.
How best do you think I should approach this?
9 Responses
Telling him won’t solve the issue because the deceit is a two-edged sword that can tear anything apart (virginity lie and not having children lie).
Better go and bring your lost virginity where you lost it oo
This is a huge sc*m. The man will hate you for life if you marry him under false pretense of being a virgin.
I don’t want to imagine the look on his face on the wedding night.
My candid advice…..tell him you lost your virginity a long time ago, you were only pulling his legs.
If he loves you, he will stay.
Honestly, the best thing you can do at this point is to tell him, do not marry him without telling him the truth or better still show him this post and get his reaction. Again, do not marry him under this pretense. Good Luck.
Just open up to him that you were only joking,but i think you should’ve done this since. Don’t marry him without him knowing the truth, if not your marriage will be your worst nightmare.
As long as you remember he can divorce you legally based on undisclosed issues or lies said before marriage.
The man don’t have eye
You’ve destroyed the relationship the moment you lied..
Open up to him with the truth
Anything built on lies never lasts.
You should be ready to carry your cross when the time comes because things will never remain the same when he finds out.