I met this guy some time ago when he came to pick up a few things at my mom’s place. We had a great connection, but we didn’t exchange contacts. A month or two later, he stopped by again to say hi, and this time, we exchanged numbers.

We started chatting, and I was impressed by how fluent he was in English. He had plans over the weekend, so we arranged to meet at his place a few days later. When I got there, we hugged, but since there was no chair, I sat on the bed. He gave me a quick kiss, and I immediately pulled back, reminding him that wasn’t what I came for.

He kept trying to kiss me, and eventually, I ended up giving in, but it didn’t stop there. He offered me his t-shirt to wear, which felt a bit odd. I asked him if he had other intentions. His response made me realize what he was thinking.

At that point, I had to clarify, “Is that what this is all about?” I live in a well-known area in Yenagoa, and I asked him if he thought I would go along with something like that. It wasn’t even about the idea of getting too close on the first date, but why would he think that way when we hadn’t discussed anything like that during our four days of chatting?

I just looked at him, surprised. Suddenly, he started speaking the local dialect, even though he had said earlier that he couldn’t. I made my feelings clear to him.

He then started making comments about what I was wearing, which made me uncomfortable. At that point, I decided it was time to leave and ordered a ride.

I’ve decided to stop talking to him because I was looking for a genuine friendship, but clearly, I was wrong. Why do some people behave this way? It’s important to respect boundaries and be serious about what we want.