Four days ago, my wife said she had a night
shift. Feeling alone at home with our nine
month old baby boy, I decided to surprise her
at her workplace since her mother was around
to help with the baby. It was late, but I wanted
to spend some time with her because she mentioned she gets a break from 1 AM to
3 AM. She had mentioned a few times that
she’s not able to rest, so I thought we could
have a drink and chat in the car during her
break. When I got there, I was informed she
wasn’t on the night shift that i asked the staff to check, and they
confirmed my wife wasn’t on duty that night.
I called her number to find out where she was,
but she didn’t answer, so I drove home
thoughtfully. I didn’t tell her mother anything
and went straight to bed. I was so upset I couldn’t go to work the next
day. She returned around 8 AM and was
surprised to see me home. She asked why I
didn’t go to work, but l didn’t speak to her.
After she finished bathing, I asked her in front
of her mother to tell us where she was coming from, but my wife insisted she was at work.
We started to discuss it, so I asked her to call
her workplace in front of her mother and me
to confirm because I was there the previous
night. She declined, saying if I didn’t trust her,
she had nothing to prove. I told her mother that if her daughter didn’t explain, they
should leave the house that same day, and I
left them. About an hour later, she came to
me and said she would call work to clear my
doubts. At that point, I felt she might have
managed to convince someone to cover for her, so I told her not to call and just tell
me where she went. I gave her 24 hours to be
honest, or she would need to leave. The 24
hours passed, and she still didn’t want to share
the truth, even after her mother asked her to.
So, I asked her to leave the house this morning. Her mother has called people to talk to me,
but I feel my wife is not being completely
honest. I’m certain of it. I know her, and I’m
convinced she’s hiding something, so I won’t
take her back. Am I wrong, or am I doing the
right thing?
4 Responses
Stand on ur ground gidigbam! 💪
I for like to buy u 3 bottles of Beer 🍻 cos u re a man.
In the presence of her mum, insist she gives you her phone and carefully trace any suspicious chat or calls that happened the day before, the actual day and the day after. That’s another chance for her to prove her doubts in you. Please take note, she might not give you her phone at the first instance you ask for it. As a wise man don’t ask her after your first trial and never take it from her when she comes back and hands it to you. Also, don’t take it from her if incase she’s the first to take this initiative. Women can be very smart and she’d obviously erase any fishy evidence to put you to shame.
As a man, you have to persistently maintain your decisions and actions. Never hold back.She would eventually confess herself, trust me.
Once she confesses her infidelity, remember your nine month old baby before you take any actions afterwards.
If you would divorce her, promise to be capable and willingly be there for your little boy at all times. If not, embrace that upsetting wife of yours( for better for worse) but love her with half brains and emotions, for the sake of your mental wellbeing and your job.
Don’t take her back. I repeat, don’t. With that being said never should you ever deprive her from seeing her son.
Factually, a woman can hold unto a lie even with a knife halfway into her throat.
Secondly, Women hate indecisive men.
Once you bend to her will today, she would insist you keep bending.
Hold onto your ground, to get the truth out of her, you need to hold that ground aggressively.
You have nothing to lose. If she decides to go, her loss.
Remain firm,
you are the the prize
Before I advise, I put my self in your shoe, doing that now, I am started to feel pain, and different thoughts going through my head, like:
– What if it’s not the first time she had done this?
– Why is it so hard for her to say?
– What does she take me for ?
– How long has she being playing me ?
Etc
Bro, you are in a serious one. I am in support that you send her home, atleast for now untill she comes out clean with evidence, because if you don’t handle this well this time, you will be shocked what will come next.
Just to be safe, I recommend you verify every other thing she made you assume is that might not be (you know what I mean). All the best.